CONNECT WITH YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF

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The best version of yourself is being true to yourself, but what does this mean?

It is sometimes easier to explain something by identifying what it isn’t. That said, here’s a list of what is not being the best version of yourself:

  • Being true to yourself is not about pleasing others;

  • Being true to yourself is not about hurting others;

  • Being true to yourself is not about doing things you dislike;

  • Being true to yourself is not about forcing yourself to do something;

  • Being true to yourself is not about being hard on yourself;

  • Being true to yourself is not about judging others and comparing yourself;

  • Being true to yourself is not about being a victim of your surroundings;

  • Being true to yourself is not about acting in a way that will attract more fans on social media.

Being true to yourself means that you behave and communicate in complete integrity with your belief, values, and, most of all, with what feels right in your heart. When there is an alignment with your inner self (emotions, states, and desires) and outer self (behaviours, communication, and relationships), you are the best version of yourself.

Authentic people are genuine, honest, and mostly, integrity themselves. They don’t try to be someone they are not or please people they don’t know. For them, being different is not an issue nor something they thrive to be; they are just themselves, and that’s where personal power comes from.

Authentic people also love doing what they enjoy and don’t try to copy others’ ideas for the sake of being successful. Their success comes from doing what is in their heart, what drives them, as opposed to what inspires others or the majority.

Take a moment to list three things that make you happy and fulfil a space in your heart:

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Now find ways to do more of that. When you do the things that you love, you are being authentic, you are exposing the best version of yourself, and that’s why it is fulfilling. Another way to reconnect with your true and authentic self is to rediscover your inner child, the one that didn’t care about what others thought.

In conclusion, claiming your personal power is not an objective that you can necessarily achieve overnight. First, you must accept that you are not perfect, and perfection will never be your truth. As you have learned claiming your personal power is not about perfection but more about finding your true self. No matter what, don’t forget you got this and embrace yourself today!

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of whom we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.”

-Brené Brown

RECONNECTING WITH YOUR INNER CHILD

When you reconnect with your inner child, you also heal wounds from the past. The top things you can learn from your inner child are the following:

  •  There is no such thing as failures, only experiences. The best way to experience life is through play.

  •  It doesn’t matter what others think. If you want to scream, scream; if you want to dance in public, dance in public; if you want to sing when you eat, sing when you eat.

  •  Love is unconditional. I love my parents no matter what or who they are, from the moment I am born.

  •  I live in the present moment. When I am hungry, you know it; When I am happy, you know it; When I am calm, you know it. I am not afraid to express how I feel.

  •  It’s easy to forgive others; you just have to show compassion and move on.

Try to be more like your inner child and awaken that aspect of you that you knew when you were young, but somehow, you’ve disconnected from growing up. Take the time to play again, to make mistakes, forgive and try something else. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and do what your heart tells you to do, no matter what others may think. Love yourself and others around you learn to love unconditionally once again, and show compassion to those around you. And most of all, learn to live in the present moment, stop resisting all those emotions and learn to express them more healthily (and not repress them).

TAME YOUR INNER VOICE

Self-talk is one of the most powerful forms of communication because it has the power to lift you up or bring you down in a matter of seconds.

It is often impressive how we can be mean to ourselves. While most of us would never express hate or diminishing words toward our friends and families, yet, we let ourselves be our biggest bully.

The first step is to pay attention to your inner chat. What are the thoughts that cross your mind when you look at yourself in the mirror or when you make a mistake? Be aware that if you practice negative self-talk, this didn’t happen overnight, and it will require a lot of practice, awareness, and work to get the habit out of you.

Second, try to identify when you are using a lot of negative self-talk.

Is it when you look at yourself in the mirror?

When you are out with friends or when you are at work?

Once you’ve identified it, make a new affirmation that will replace your negative self-talk.

For example, if you are always criticizing yourself when you are at the gym (ex: that your hips are too big or your belly is not in enough), make a new phrase in your mind that you will use when you are exercising. It could be that you are proud of yourself for taking the time to take care of your physical body. Be aware of your negative chatter and change it to something more positive.

- Luis Carvalho

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Luis Carvalho

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